No One Can Heal You

As a healer, I have studied and worked in the holistic health field for 15 years now. Through this time, I have had the privilege of being a student and client of many gifted practitioners and I have been able to work in various organizations. Along the way, I have noticed patterns and found that there are certain truths that I keep returning to. Today I want to share one of these truths that I feel is very important. It not only applies to healers, but to those seeking any form of healing as well. And here it is: no one can heal you.

The good news is: you are a self-healing organism. You have the ability to heal yourself. It begins with the decision to heal and this decision has to come from within. You make this decision and you begin to hold a vision of yourself healed, whole, healthy, and happy. You decide to take responsibility for your health, on all levels. Instead of simply going to a doctor and saying “fix me”, you take responsibility for what you are putting into your body, what thoughts you are thinking, your lifestyle, your environment. You dig deeper, you educate yourself, and you look within. You may go to healers and doctors to assist you with that process or guide you with their knowledge and expertise, but ultimately they cannot heal you unless the desire to heal comes from within.

Because no one can heal you unless you truly wish to heal, healing will not take place if someone is being pushed into something they do not want to do. This is why addicts do not usually respond to court-ordered treatment and why I don’t accept clients for hypnosis who want to quit smoking or eat healthier because their partner wants them to. It does not work that way.

The other side of this coin is that healers are people that assist and guide with healing, but they cannot take credit for healing (just as they cannot be blamed for lack of healing). Be wary of anyone saying they are “saving peoples’ lives” or taking full credit for your healing or transformation. The individual is co-creating their health (or lack of) with their higher power. A healer may know techniques to help you through a shift, to move stuck energy, or to ease and comfort you. Ultimately, they do not have a power greater than Source (ie God/Goddess/the Universe/etc.).

Does that mean that helping people or preventing them from a death is negative in some way? No. What can become an issue is the way we think about ourselves. If we give our Ego credit for something that really our higher power was responsible for, it can snowball into a messianic complex, meaning believing ourselves to be a savior of sorts. I have seen this happen to healers. All the good feedback feeds that Ego and if not checked, can get out of hand. So, affirm to yourself and your clients that they are the ones healing themselves. Even a doctor or surgeon who performs a life-saving operation cannot take full credit. There are other factors at work, which is why the same operation or treatment does not work each time. The outcome is part of a divine plan, not a game of chance and not the Ego. There are agreements we’ve made on a soul level that affect outcomes, your life plan, the greatest good of all concerned, as well as our feelings and beliefs about life and healing.

The beauty in understanding this is that now you have the power to play a part in co-creating your own health. There is an inner voice that can guide you and when you listen, you will be supported. That inner voice is connected to the collective unconscious and all of your guides and angels. Although there may be some things you cannot change, there are also areas in your life that you can change. Begin there. Focus on what feels good and let that be your guide. Let your affirmation be: I am self-healing; I am co-creating my own wellness.

Whether conscious of not, in each moment you are creating, but what you create is all up to you. You are the artist sculpting yourself… and no matter what you are given, no matter what you are starting out with, you can make it beautiful.



This is the flower of the plant called Self-Heal, Prunella vulgaris. It has many healing uses and you might even find it growing in your lawn.

Patricia Kaminski of the Flower Essence Society says this about Self-Heal: “Self-Heal flower essence is especially indicated for those who have lost belief in their own capacity to be well, or who have abdicated this inherent responsibility to healers or others. It is a very beneficial remedy for those who face great healing challenges, whether physical, mental, or spiritual.

The central teaching of Self-Heal is to enable the Self to affirm and to draw from the deep wellspring of life, toward true recovery and restoration. The name “Self-Heal” is perhaps its own best affirmation, since all healing depends on an inner commitment to be well. No variety of outer measures and techniques can bring about healing (physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual), if there is not a quickening from within the individual, a motivation to seek and affirm the wholeness of life.”

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